Death, Especially
Violent Death, is a Very Painful Experience
By Harry Greaves
The Perspective
Atlanta, Georgia
August 13, 2005
Tarloh,
I read your open letter, which was forwarded to me
by a friend. It was most distressing. I was in your
company on a number of occasions in the United States,
while I was living there. I think we even exchanged
brief words. I was not aware that thre were burning
questions to which you sought answers. You never asked
and I never presumed.
Death, especially violent death, is a very painful
experience. And one is always sensitive to visiting
on those closely associated with death a reprise of
their painful experience, unless one is invited so
to do. I would have considered it the height of insensitivity
to re-open the subject of your husband's death with
you unless I received explicit signals from you to
that effect. Hence my silence on the subject.
I do not claim to know everything about what preceded
or followed "November 12", but I do know
some of what occurred and would be more than happy
to share with you that knowledge if that is what you
desire. I am in Liberia and have been living here
since 2002. So, if the occasion arises, I would be
glad to meet with you and tell you all that I know.
Lastly, while I can understand your pain, I think
it would be a misunderstanding of the facts for you
to assume that your late husband, for whom I developed
a great deal of respect during the period of our short
association, was the sole victim of that tragedy and
that somehow everyone else involved in that enterprise
simply used him. Many mistakes were made by everyone,
including him, and as you will learn from that part
of the story with which I am familiar, along with
the tragedy went a great deal of selflessness, bravery
and patriotism on the part of a number of people.